by Kevin Clang
(This story originally ran in The Pendulum on April 21)
Politicians like to demonstrate the unity of our country by pointing out the idea that there are no red states or blue states, just the United States. It is a nice line if your running for an elected office, but it could not be further from the truth. While there have always been major ideological differences between our many states, rarely in our history have they been so numerous.
Red and blue political beliefs are growing further and further apart and it is getting increasingly difficult for the two to understand each other. Big government versus small government. Pro-life versus pro-choice. In today’s America, you’re either a gay-marrying, baby-killing member of a blue state or a gun-toting, Bible-loving member of a red state.

Texas Gov. Rick Perry suggests secession as a viable option when faced with dominance by an opposing party in Washington. (From rickperry.org)
So it is really no surprise to hear talks of sovereignty and even secession from some states unhappy with Washington’s current spending policies. Alaska, Vermont, and most recently Texas have all spoken of secession in the past few years. With the struggling economy, the United States finds itself at its lowest point in recent memory. Morale is down and the states are starting to point fingers at each other.
Let’s ignore that statements are made to get attention, not to be taken seriously. Also, let’s ignore that 75 percent of Texans don’t even want to secede, and that even mentioning the action is crazy un-American. Let’s too ignore that the possibility of secession is unrealistic and remote at best; states would have to defeat the most powerful military on the planet to succeed in seceding. Does the United States have a problem? If so, how do we fix it?
Since there is no idiot’s guidebook to repairing feuding states within a country, I consulted the next-best source: Relationshiprich.org, a website that uses Dr. Phil’s books to give advice to troubled married couples. When you think about it, the United States is not unlike an unhappy, old married couple on its last nerve.
We’ve experienced the blissful union of 1776, the mid-life crises Civil War, and moved into old age with World War II. Now, it’s like we’re recently retired: we worked hard and now have the attention and respect of everyone around us, but beneath the surface we’ve grown bitter as we’ve all drifted away from each other. And all the money we saved up is running out.

Dr. Phil stresses listening and understanding as the two main things bickering spouses need to do for each other. From drphil.com
First off, this constant arguing is not helping anyone. States need to learn to listen to each other’s gripes rather than constantly trying to defend themselves. Simply listening to each other without trying to advance an agenda may help defuse the situation. Incessant attacks just exacerbate the problem and increase potential damage. The first step to understanding each other’s differences will be to acknowledge them.
Listening to each other will give us greater perspective and allow us to see the issues from the other side’s point of view. This will broaden our picture, letting us see past red or blue issues and focus more on America’s issues. Our differences are one thing that makes America great. The country needs this back and forth between ideas. If one side secedes, the country loses. The key is to talk about these matters without allowing them to anger us.
The blame game also needs to stop. Both sides have made mistakes. While taking responsibility off of ourselves and putting them on the other states may feel good, especially when we know that we are right, it turns the others into adversaries. This opens the door to more argument, which only leads to guilt, shame and resentment.
Being the minority party is just part of politics: sometimes you’re up and sometimes you’re down, but in the end the American people will decide what is best for them and we need to accept that even if we don’t agree with current policies. It would be a tragic shame to lose any one of the fifty states. Each is so unique and special, adding its own distinctive flavor and culture to the country. Seceding is equivalent to giving up; by doing so, the other side automatically wins. Perhaps Congress could benefit from hiring a marriage counselor or two to sit in on vitriolic sessions – maybe then they could see past their own egos and consider what is best for the country.


